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Multidimensional Goals and Ways of Being

“We are all Spiritual Venture-Capitalists.”

– David Rainoshek, M.A.

“Giant goals produce giant motivation.”

– Anthony Robbins

You have probably heard of goal writing, and you may have done a little –or a lot – of this practice. With this chapter, you are going to get a significant upgrade in three Stages, turning Stage 1 Goals into Stage 2 Multidimensional Goals and Stage 3 Multidimensional Ways of Being.

Let’s be clear: A Mind and a Life on fire with passion – with purposes clearly defined, both local and large in scale – is on the Way of HyperLearning.

Before we get into the three Stages of Goals, let’s do a quick refresher on the importance of Goals.

The goals we have in mind often drive us beyond what we believe we are capable of, and goals written down are even more powerful. Consider this famous goal study Anthony Robbins cites in his book Unlimited Power:

“A study of the 1953 graduates of Yale University clearly demonstrates the power of goals. The graduates interviewed were asked if they had a clear, specific set of goals written down with a plan for achieving those goals. Only three percent had written such goals. Twenty years later, in 1973, the researchers went back and interviewed the surviving members of the 1953 graduating class. They discovered that the three percent with written specific goals were worth more in financial terms than the entire other 97 percent put together… The interviewers also discovered that the less measurable or more subjective measures, such as level of happiness and joy that the graduates felt, also seemed to be superior in the three percent with written goals.”

David Wolfe, in his book Sunfood Diet Success System, writes, “When you take action and actually write down your goals and review them regularly, you dive into a strong current which will carry you to distant places. Unseen forces will come to your aid.

Writing a vision, idea, or goal down makes it a commitment. It tells the subconscious mind what you want to do. It compels the subconscious to figure out how to make your vision become reality. Remember, “Don’t just think it, ink it.” The more often you write down your goals, review them, and get into the habit of working on them, the quicker they materialize into reality.”

Your goal writing will be greatly improved when you understand the full spectrum of potential for your goals.

What we are going to do is combine two teachings to add enormous depth to your goals, and then move beyond goals themselves. Like so:

1. The first teaching is from “How to Set Technologically Superior Goals” in Amazing Grace by David Wolfe and Nick Good.

2. The second I learned from Ken Wilber on the basic stages of development from egocentric to sociocentric to worldcentric to kosmocentric, or from selfish to care to universal care.

3. Lastly, we will move beyond Multidimensional Goals to Multidimensional Intentions and Ways of Being.

Stage 1:
How to Set Technologically Superior Goals” (from Amazing Grace)

Let’s take a look at David Wolfe and Nick Good’s practice of goal-writing from Amazing Grace to create the feelings of the goal achieved.

You might think that goals are something that you set for the future, but what those of us in the goal-setting community are finding is that achieving goals requires the energetic assumption that the goal which is set has already manifested. The most effective way to create this energetic assumption is by creating the feeling in yourself of the present-moment manifestation of that goal.

Example:

Technologically Incorrect Goal
“I hope I will get rid of my junky car.”

Analysis
This goal is in the future (I will). This goal doesn’t state the goal (what one is moving towards); it contains what one is moving away from (the junky car).

Technologically Correct Goal
“I drive a brand new hybrid vehicle that gets great gas mileage.”

Analysis
This goal is technically correct.

Technologically Superior Goal
“I drive the best ever brand-new hybrid vehicle that gets the best gas mileage ever.”

Analysis
This goal, by using the word “ever” a couple of times, opens the delivery of the content of the goal to divine powers outside of one’s self. Remember, words are invocations, words have weight.

Example:

Technologically Incorrect Goal
“I am going to get out of this terrible relationship.”

Analysis
This goal is in the future (I am going to). This goal doesn’t state the goal (what one is moving towards); it contains what one is moving away from (a terrible relationship).

Technologically Correct Goal
“I have a great relationship with the partner of my dreams.”

Analysis
This goal is technically correct.

Technologically Superior Goal
“I have the best relationship ever with a partner who is beyond my wildest dreams.”

Analysis
This goal, by using the words “ever” and “beyond,” opens the delivery of the content of the goal to divine powers outside one’s self.

Example:

Technologically Incorrect Goal
“I need to lose weight.”

Analysis
This goal is in the future (I need to). This goals doesn’t state the goal (what one is moving towards); it contains only a problem (needing to lose weight).

Technologically Correct Goal
“I have achieved my ideal weight of 110 lbs swiftly and efficiently.”

Analysis
This goal is technically correct.

Technologically Superior Goal
“I am always at the best weight ever for myself and I instantly achieve and maintain that weight in any situation forever.”

Analysis
This goal, by using the words “ever” and “forever,” opens the delivery of the content of the goal to divine powers outside one’s self.

Example:

Tecnologically Incorrect Goal
“I will not feel bad.”

Analysis
This goal is in the future (I will). This goal doesn’t state the goal (what one is moving towards); it contains what one is moving away from (feeling bad).

Tecnologically Correct Goal
“I feel great all the time.”

Analysis
This goal is technically correct. This is also the most powerful type of goal – a way-of-being goal.

Technologically Superior Goal
“I effervesce with the most radiance, joy, and health, and I consistently feel the best ever.”

Analysis
This goal, by using the words “ever,” opens the delivery of the content of the goal to divine powers outside one’s self. As we have seen in previous examples, this is the most powerful type of goal because it is a way-of-being goal.

(end of excerpt by Wolfe and Good)

Stage 2:
Applying Ken Wilber and Stages of Development to Setting Multidimensional Goals

Zen Master Thich Nhat Hanh has said that, “in order to heal the environment, we must first heal the environmentalist.” Quite right. What we have seen above by Wolfe and Good is goal-writing from that place of self-healing and self-nourishment, which is very important.

However, this is actually just the beginning of how good goal-writing can get.

You may have seen the film The Secret, or read the book. It has become very, very popular in the west. Perhaps the most striking quality of The Secret beyond its popularity is its emphasis on “me.”

Every single goal or intention or use of the Law of Attraction in The Secret comes from the egocentric place of “me.”

We are experiencing now the Me Generation of Boomers and the post-Boomer generation. Ken Wilber discussed this in an interview on www.IntegralLife.com with Julian Walker called, “Exploring The Secret: The Tricky Business of Creating Your Own Reality.”

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“The Tricky Business of Creating Your Own Reality” commented that recent research on college students shows that they are twice as narcissistic (me-me-me) as the Boomer Generation, which is pretty hard to believe.

Popularity of films like The Secret shows the deep desire for personal empowerment of today’s society, but unfortunately the strong emphasis on one’s own desires wholly shaping the outcomes of the universe only perpetuates egocentrism, or narcissism, and this does not drive the highest expressions of personal development. In fact, this ultimately creates a contraction of one’s self and a deeper sense of separation between oneself and society, or the world.

Truly dynamic, abundant goal-writing includes personal goals, but includes and transcends personal concerns to include social and global realities. We move from:

Selfish –> Care –> Universal Care

Or

Egocentric –> Sociocentric –> Worldcentric –> Kosmocentric

This is the MULTIDIMENSIONAL PART we are integrating. In fact, the more people that are involved in the benefits of our goals, the stronger the energy can be around manifesting them.

An excellent illustration of this evolutionary unfolding of perspectives is given in Integral Life Practice by Ken Wilber:

Growing into higher levels of consciousness and health involves tran­scending and including who you once were. The old you develops into a new you. The new you keeps some enduring characteristics from the old you, while shedding the transitional aspects of the old you. From each higher, deeper vantage point, what was once invisible becomes visible. You’ve experienced this, yes? You’re not the same person today as you were ten years ago and you know it. You can look at the old you and de­scribe the many ways you’ve grown beyond your previous self, as well as the many characteristics that have remained.

  • Egocentric = me
  • Ethnocentric = us
  • Worldcentric = all of us (all people and the planet we live on)
  • Kosmocentric = the whole sentient, unfolding Kosmos

To further show what is involved, let’s use a very simple model of moral development possessing only four levels or stages. An infant at birth has not yet been socialized into the culture’s ethics and conventions; this is called the pre-conventional stage. It is also called egocen­tric, in that the infant’s awareness is largely self-absorbed. It cannot take the perspective of others and thus cannot regard them as similar beings deserving of moral regard. But as the young child begins to learn its cul­ture’s rules and norms, it grows into the conventional stage of morals. This stage is also called ethnocentric, in that it centers on the child’s particular group, tribe, clan, or nation, and it therefore tends to exclude care for those not of one’s group. But at the next major stage of moral development, the post-conventional stage, the individual’s identity ex­pands once again, this time to include a care and concern for all peoples, regardless of race, color, sex, or creed, which is why this stage is also called worldcentric. If the individual then keeps on growing (perhaps by taking up an Integral Life Practice or ILP), they will progress to a post-postconventional or kosmocentric stage of moral development, thereby becoming capable of identifying with and caring for all sentient beings.

Thus, moral development tends to move from “me” (egocentric) to “us” (ethnocentric) to “all of us” (worldcentric) to “all sentient beings” (kosmocentric) – a good example of how the unfolding stages of con­sciousness surpass narcissism and grow into the capacity to take wider and deeper perspectives.[1]

The limited perspectives of lower levels are happily left behind in the process of development. A lower-level aspect of consciousness can no longer pretend it’s the center of the universe. With an understanding and acceptance of levels as progressive and permanent milestones along the evolutionary path of your own unfolding comes an implicit drive to grow into higher levels and help others do the same. Integral Life Practice pro­vides a comprehensive, yet elegant method to live this inherent evolu­tionary urge.

That said, there is also (and very importantly) a sense in which we are wherever we are – and that’s totally okay. Would you ever harshly judge a newborn baby for not knowing how to walk yet? Or a 5-year-old for not understanding calculus? No level of development is bad or wrong. Every single one is part of a natural sequence and has a right to exist. Each is partially true, but higher levels are (by definition) truer, because they transcend and include the lower levels.

There is no absolutely highest level, because there can always be even higher levels that have yet to emerge – and which certainly will, whether we like it or not! So we should be kind to ourselves – there’s no need to be a developmental fanatic. Our job, as Integral Practitioners, is to work with all the levels we’re aware of – because all are real, all belong to this magnificent Kosmos, and the better we can understand them, the more effective and loving we can be in our lives – gently, naturally, and at our own pace.

When you are writing goals, this understanding is important because it adds a full spectrum of possibilities for each category of goals, which looks like the following:

A living environment goal at an egocentric level might be do re-do your bathroom in a way that you like it, with colors and décor that you prefer. This is a fine goal, but without driving it to the worldcentric level your new bathroom might contain toxic products or use resources that are not renewable. By moving to a worldcentric level, you would consider the sociocentric realities of your guests’ toxic sensitivities to cleaning products, plastics, and the worldcentric aspects of the need for using renewable resources.

That’s it. When writing your goals, add this extremely important dimension to your understanding of your goals, and see if you can drive them further up the spectrum to worldcentric – as I do believe that goals that have a conscious worldcentric aspect manifest more abundantly – and can and should! include personal and local group benefits, as well.

Stage 3:
Multidimensional Ways of Being

Now that we have the present moment, assumptive-language goal writing from David Wolfe and Nick Good, the Multidimensional / Developmental understanding of involving others from Ken Wilber, let’s look at including and transcending our Goals.

A Goal as we are describing it has a finite end result to it, usually. Once you achieve it, or are blessed to find its arrival or completion in your life, you are on to the next thing.

What about “Goals” that never end? Here is where Ways of Being come into practice.

A Way of Being is broader than a goal – much broader… it is a conduit to Goals, and the container of Goals. A Way of Being self-generates goal writing, and allows for the future achievement of goals.

Another way to look at it is that a Stage 1 Goal or Stage 2 Multidimensional Goal is outside of yourself, whereas a Stage 3 Way of Being is interior to your very being – it is the fabric of your being.

Let’s look at some Ways of Being that improve on some Multidimensional Goals:

Example 1

Stage 1 Goal: I am in my ideal weight range.

Stage 2 Multidimensional Goal: I am in my ideal weight range to improve my blood sugar, my state of mind, and my immune system so that I can show up for my family and my life’s work in the most skillful, dynamic, creative, and loving ways possible.

Stage 3 Multidimensional Way of Being: I love the feeling in my body of eating healthy, nutrient-dense foods and engaging in Life Practices that maintain my ideal weight range. I absolutely love how this switches my mind and heart on to do the life’s work that I am Uniquely here to do. I love cultivating and radiating health for everyone’s benefit, and this is one of my greatest joys.

Example 2

Stage 1 Goal: I read the best possible books – several a week.

Stage 2 Multidimensional Goal: I read several books a week to continue my education and prevent brain, mind, and life atrophy through my adult years, so that I can show up for my family and my life’s work in the most skillful, dynamic, creative, and loving ways possible.

Stage 3 Multidimensional Way of Being: I love reading and learning. It is one of the Great Joys of my life, and I do so to better understand my human experience and the significance of being alive. I can see how the reading I do translates into Ways of Being love and understanding for others, opens up new possibilities for myself and others, and over time, reading and the insights it provides me is an immeasureable happiness in my life that helps me express my Unique Self Purpose.

Example 3

Stage 1 Goal: I have found the ideal partner for me.

Stage 2 Multidimensional Goal: I have found the ideal partner for me to raise a beautiful family with. We have discovered a community of friends and families that we enjoy raising our children with together in many activities.

Stage 3 Multidimensional Way of Being: I love cultivating a beautiful and durable relationship with my partner, and moreover, one of my greatest joys is to rediscover him/her over and over and over. The freshness of our continued growth together is an offering of love to each other, our family, and many people we come in contact with, when we are thinking of others, and even when we are just living our lives together. Cultivating the Miracle of “We” is one of our greatest happinesses, and we foster inspiring co-creative relationships at home, work, and in the world at large.

Notice in these examples that the Stage 1 Goals are somewhat finite in their achievement in time, in the way they are written they involve only oneself, and have no explicit intention of continuity into the future, or future action.

In the Stage 2 Multidimensional Goals, purpose is brought in for oneself that expands outward to lovingly include others. By extending one’s circle of care and concern outward to more beings, a greater certitude about the importance of the Goal sets in. Many of us would also suggest that numerous unseen forces come to one’s aid when such large and loving goals are written and acted upon.

Finally, in the Stage 3 Multidimensional Ways of Being, not only are others involved, but the finiteness or end result of the Goal is expanded outward to a Way of Being that has no end, and no limits of benefit to self and others in many domains of life.

Stage 3 Multidimensional Ways of Being are the most integrated, deep level of goals, and while this is true, all three Stages are very important. Keep in mind as you upgrade the nature of your Goals with this practice that Stage 3 Multidimensional Ways of Being are often best built by starting with Stage 1 Goals and growing into Stages 2 and 3.

Final Words on Multidimensional Goals and Ways of Being

At the top of this chapter, I wrote, “We are all Spiritual Venture Capitalists.” Just like economic Venture Capitalists, all our Goals and Ways of Being may not manifest or develop the way we vision or think they should.

The famous comedian and writer Woody Allen once said, “If you want to make God laugh, tell God your future plans.”

Life has a way of manifesting in creative ways that are sometimes beyond our immediate ability to grasp. Sometimes events happen, projects stall, development takes routes that we did not anticipate… These are not reasons to lose vision, hope, faith, or trust.

Instead of judging current events in your life as absolutely “good” or “bad,” create some space by waiting to see how even the “bad” events eventually lead to – or turn out to be – beneficial in the development of your life and that of your loved ones.

Also know that if the parts are good, the wholes will be good – probably better than you could have possibly dreamed or expected. The HyperLearning Life Practices you are setting into place are whole and good in-and-of themselves. I guarantee they will be the beautiful wholes out of which a larger life of creativity and meaning will arise. TRUST that the good things you do will creatively coalesce into a passionate life that is worth living ever more abundantly, and will undoubtedly be of service and value to yourself and everyone you meet.

“Take the first step in faith. You don’t have to see the whole staircase. Just take the first step.”

– Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. 1929-1968

 

Holding that kind of FAITH and TRUST as you enjoy integrating these Life Practices is exciting, fun, expansive, and one of the best Ways of Being you will cultivate over and over in this lifetime.

There are divine purposes for your life, and it is part of the meaning of life to discover the deep experience of those purposes, with faith and trust that they will be realized again and again. Walt Whitman knew it. Consider this passage from “Song of Myself” in Leaves of Grass:

 

Immense have been the preparations for me,
Faithful and friendly the arms that have help’d me.

Cycles ferried my cradle, rowing and rowing like cheerful boatmen,
For room to me stars kept aside in their own rings,
They sent influences to look after what was to hold me.

Before I was born out of my mother generations guided me,
My embryo has never been torpid, nothing could overlay it.

For it the nebula cohered to an orb,
The long slow strata piled to rest it on,
Vast vegetables gave it sustenance,
Monstrous sauroids transported it in their mouths and deposited it
with care.

All forces have been steadily employ’d to complete and delight me,
Now on this spot I stand with my robust soul.

Coming up next time: Chapter 5: A Map for HyperLearning Better: Integral Thinking!

 

Stay Sharp,

David Rainoshek, M.A.

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[1] Keep in mind that a person is never simply at one level. Instead, people tend to fluc­tuate around a particular level, sometimes acting higher, sometimes lower, and hope­fully edging our way upward over time. To say that someone is at, say, the worldcentric level in moral development means that most often they will take all people into account when confronting moral dilemmas-but sometimes they’ll be “ethnocentric,” and other times they’ll be “egocentric.” So when a person develops up to any given level, it means they have a higher probability of operating from that level on a good day. This is why sometimes we refer to levels as “waves,” to emphasize their fluidity.

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